thread: what doesn't harm kids?

## thread: what doesn't harm kids?

#### 25 March 2019
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### bly

| It's important to understand what really harms children so we aim to prevent the right things. Quick guide: THINGS THAT DON'T INVOLVE HARMING REAL CHILDREN: - Ageplay - AB/DL - DDLG - Loli/Shota/other art - Child Sex Dolls - Fantasy - Writing - Having pro-c opinions THINGS THAT HARM REAL CHILDREN: - Child molestation - Grooming - Enacting pro-c ideas - Making/using CSEM One tweet was too short to capture all the subtleties of this but... (a) I assume the non-harming activities I listed are either done by consenting adults or solo by minors, in general (b) I am against pro-c opinions and feel they can lead to harm but (i) free speech and (ii) > > there is a spectrum of critiques and opinions outside the standard view of abuse and aoc. (c) DDLG is shorthand to include DDLB, DMLB, DMLG and all the other gender variants (d) Trans identities could easily have been mentioned but would need explaining in other ways > > (e) Psychological states like DID/regression I guess fit in here somewhere but are more complex re consent (f) All the "non-harm" actions are assumed voluntary on the part of the person initiating. Attraction to kids is involuntary but JUST AS HARMLESS AND NON-BLAMEWORTHY. About the author: I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed illegal material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing. |

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thread: where do anti-contacts come from? |  | thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser? |  | why i do this
bly Thanks to the label anti-contact there is a new way for pedophiles to identify. |  | bly Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why? |  | ender Those who will lose their children to suicide because of this will perhaps never know why their child took his or her life

thread: where do anti-contacts come from? bly Thanks to the label anti-contact there is a new way for pedophiles to identify.
thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser? bly Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why?
why i do this ender Those who will lose their children to suicide because of this will perhaps never know why their child took his or her life