## bly ### anti-contact, anti-csem community activist and writer #### writing from jan 2018 - nov 2025

| I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed illegal material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing. |

I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed illegal material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing.

more recent items

jan 2018 to mar 2019

|  |  | 29 March 2019 thread: a new pedophile was just born bly A future pedophile is born every 45 seconds. What do we do when they come of age?
|  |  | 25 March 2019 thread: what doesn't harm kids? bly It's important to understand what really harms children so we aim to prevent the right things.
|  |  | 23 March 2019 thread: where do anti-contacts come from? bly Thanks to the label anti-contact there is a new way for pedophiles to identify.
|  |  | 5 March 2019 attraction is not action bly In my teenaged years, I had access to a therapist, but I just never brought it up and the sessions ended without it ever being mentioned.
|  |  | 6 February 2019 thread: better sex education bly A short Twitter thread on how sex education could be in the future
|  |  | 11 December 2018 thread: what help? bly In response to the many accounts that simply tweeted, Get Help!
|  |  | 9 December 2018 thread: common misconceptions bly Many people believe many things about us, but most are wrong.
|  |  | 20 November 2018 thread: identification with children bly How many pedophiles find it hard to see themselves as adults? Is this important?
|  |  | 27 October 2018 thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser? bly Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why?
|  |  | 7 September 2018 why pro-contact pedophile arguments are bullshit (by a pedophile) bly Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.
|  |  | 26 June 2018 thread: why are we anonymous? bly Surely if we want to campaign, we should come out and deanonymise? It's not so easy.
|  |  | 12 June 2018 thread: ageplay and pedophilia bly Ageplay takes many forms and is distinct from pedophilia... But....
|  |  | 16 January 2018 the first time i didn't view child pornography bly Child sexual abuse material, known legally as child pornography, is a blight on children's lives. But what if you're the kind of person it's aimed at?

29 March 2019 thread: a new pedophile was just born bly A future pedophile is born every 45 seconds. What do we do when they come of age?
25 March 2019 thread: what doesn't harm kids? bly It's important to understand what really harms children so we aim to prevent the right things.
23 March 2019 thread: where do anti-contacts come from? bly Thanks to the label anti-contact there is a new way for pedophiles to identify.
5 March 2019 attraction is not action bly In my teenaged years, I had access to a therapist, but I just never brought it up and the sessions ended without it ever being mentioned.
6 February 2019 thread: better sex education bly A short Twitter thread on how sex education could be in the future
11 December 2018 thread: what help? bly In response to the many accounts that simply tweeted, Get Help!
9 December 2018 thread: common misconceptions bly Many people believe many things about us, but most are wrong.
20 November 2018 thread: identification with children bly How many pedophiles find it hard to see themselves as adults? Is this important?
27 October 2018 thread: how does a pedophile not become an abuser? bly Pedophiles have different starting points and end with differing beliefs and behaviours. What do we know about why?
7 September 2018 why pro-contact pedophile arguments are bullshit (by a pedophile) bly Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.
26 June 2018 thread: why are we anonymous? bly Surely if we want to campaign, we should come out and deanonymise? It's not so easy.
12 June 2018 thread: ageplay and pedophilia bly Ageplay takes many forms and is distinct from pedophilia... But....
16 January 2018 the first time i didn't view child pornography bly Child sexual abuse material, known legally as child pornography, is a blight on children's lives. But what if you're the kind of person it's aimed at?

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.