two audiences: pedophiles and public

## two audiences: pedophiles and public

#### 12 May 2015
from celibate pedophiles

### ethan edwards

| My year 2014 posts were addressed primarily to a public that is skeptical of anything good or decent about pedophiles at all. Ethan Edwards is the co-founder of Virtuous Pedophiles. Blog posts reflect his personal views, and are not statements from the organization. My year 2014 posts were addressed primarily to a public that is skeptical of anything good or decent about pedophiles at all.My year 2015 posts so far have been addressed primarily to pro-contact pedophiles — ones who think sex with children is fundamentally OK. Even some people who respect celibate pedophiles might feel that engaging pro-contact pedophiles in conversation is a disgrace. Some might think that the Virtuous Pedophiles cause would be served politically by distancing myself from them thoroughly and trying to outdo society in vilifying them. By nature I want to assume the basic humanity of any group and try to understand them. The pro-contact position is respectable in terms of values — the well-being of children is high on their list. It is seriously off-kilter in terms of facts — what actually contributes to the well-being of children. Some proponents of the position recognize that as society exists today, sexual activity is risky for children — harm outweighs benefit. They urge all pedophiles to stay celibate until society changes. Usually this is expressed in terms of impatient derision — society is dead wrong. But to the extent they are actually willing to wait, they are grudgingly within the social compact. They can argue their case, but until it is accepted they urge continued celibacy. If it is never accepted, those with integrity will argue for unending celibacy. I have proposed an anti-contact position that is free from such clear falsehoods as: (1) children are asexual, (2) all children are devastated by sexual activity with adults, (3) no young teens would ever actively want sex with an adult, and (4) a man finding young teens attractive is uncommon — let alone horrifyingly sick. The solid anti-contact case rests on competing costs and benefits, probabilities, temptations, incentives to misperceive, and legal proof in the crucial matter of consent — things that actually happen in the world. I hope that this more nuanced anti-contact argument will be persuasive to some pro-contact pedophiles who typically measure their views only against the more extreme anti-contact positions. This post ends my series addressing pro-contact pedophiles. My ideas for future posts now return to the audience of the general public. About the author: Ethan Edwards is a pseudonym. I am a pedophile, always celibate, and I have never seen child pornography. My attraction is strongest to girls around 4 years old, but I am also attracted to girls and women up through their 30s or beyond. Now in my late 60s, I'm divorced and living alone. I was married for over 10 years and was heavily involved with raising my 3 daughters. For most of my career I was a successful software engineer. I am very unusual for a pedophile in that I didn't realize that I was one until I was in my 50s—but it was there all along. I am angry that we all must remain silent or risk losing everything. That was my mindset when I co-founded Virtuous Pedophiles in 2012. I soon learned of the the terror of the typical pedophile who realizes as a teenager that his attraction isn't going to go away, who has nowhere to turn for help. The injustice I am most passionate about is the harsh legal penalties imposed on pedophiles who passively view illegal images of children. I stepped down from my role as a director of Virtuous Pedophiles early in 2024 and am delighted to pass the mantle on to a younger generation. This content was taken from Ethan's longstanding blog, Celibate Pedophiles. Some of the titles and taglines have been edited for their inclusion at thepword. You can see an earlier version of the blog at the wayback machine. |

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thread: window shoppers and thieves bly People say that all we want to do is rape children. But this doesn't describe us well.
pedophiles who don't excuse child sexual abuse the p word What is this website? A place where you can hear a voice that is rarely allowed to speak. But people who love free speech do not love ours.
star trek, me, and pedophilia leonard johnston You can learn a lot about me from Star Trek. It's shaped my perception of myself and my pedophilia.