## ethan edwards ### co-founder of virtuous pedophiles #### writing from jul 2014 - aug 2025

| Ethan Edwards is a pseudonym. I am a pedophile, always celibate, and I have never seen child pornography. My attraction is strongest to girls around 4 years old, but I am also attracted to girls and women up through their 30s or beyond. Now in my late 60s, I'm divorced and living alone. I was married for over 10 years and was heavily involved with raising my 3 daughters. For most of my career I was a successful software engineer. I am very unusual for a pedophile in that I didn't realize that I was one until I was in my 50s—but it was there all along. I am angry that we all must remain silent or risk losing everything. That was my mindset when I co-founded Virtuous Pedophiles in 2012. I soon learned of the the terror of the typical pedophile who realizes as a teenager that his attraction isn't going to go away, who has nowhere to turn for help. The injustice I am most passionate about is the harsh legal penalties imposed on pedophiles who passively view illegal images of children. I stepped down from my role as a director of Virtuous Pedophiles early in 2024 and am delighted to pass the mantle on to a younger generation. |

Ethan Edwards is a pseudonym. I am a pedophile, always celibate, and I have never seen child pornography. My attraction is strongest to girls around 4 years old, but I am also attracted to girls and women up through their 30s or beyond. Now in my late 60s, I'm divorced and living alone. I was married for over 10 years and was heavily involved with raising my 3 daughters. For most of my career I was a successful software engineer. I am very unusual for a pedophile in that I didn't realize that I was one until I was in my 50s—but it was there all along. I am angry that we all must remain silent or risk losing everything. That was my mindset when I co-founded Virtuous Pedophiles in 2012. I soon learned of the the terror of the typical pedophile who realizes as a teenager that his attraction isn't going to go away, who has nowhere to turn for help. The injustice I am most passionate about is the harsh legal penalties imposed on pedophiles who passively view illegal images of children. I stepped down from my role as a director of Virtuous Pedophiles early in 2024 and am delighted to pass the mantle on to a younger generation.

more recent items

nov 2014 to nov 2015

|  |  | 5 November 2015 review of "pedal" by chelsea rooney ethan edwards There is space for children to not be victimized, but there is no space for pedophiles to think that gives them the right to do sexual things with kids that they perceive to be willing.
|  |  | 1 November 2015 on stopitnow — vengeance still lurks ethan edwards An honest statement would be that you can avoid compounding your criminal exposure by stopping, but you are still liable for past crimes.
|  |  | 17 October 2015 critique of stopitnow's anti-cp campaign ethan edwards From the perspective of thinking clearly about complicated issues, there is a lot to criticize
|  |  | 10 October 2015 can you trust stopitnow's anti-cp campaign? ethan edwards The UK branch of StopItNow has launched a campaign to help people stop looking at CP. At its heart is a set of web-based modules. This is an exciting and promising new initiative — subject to one huge caveat
|  |  | 3 October 2015 religious social conservatives and pedophilia ethan edwards Conservative catholics can believe in celibate pedophiles, but their standards are not the same as mine.
|  |  | 1 October 2015 todd nickerson's salon.com articles ethan edwards Todd reports the vast majority of the emails he has gotten are supportive.
|  |  | 1 September 2015 truly universal suffrage: lowering the voting age to zero ethan edwards I've decided (though open to counterarguments) that the voting age should be lowered to zero.
|  |  | 2 August 2015 a dangerous persons registry ethan edwards The sensible kernel of wisdom to the sex offender registry is that you might want to know if a truly dangerous criminal moves in nearby.
|  |  | 28 July 2015 the psychopath whisperer by kent kiehl ethan edwards As a class, psychopaths commit an enormous number of crimes and almost always go back to a life of crime when released from prison.
|  |  | 19 July 2015 the suffering of the non-pedophilic non-offender ethan edwards Help free ordinary men from undeserved shame and self-loathing.
|  |  | 14 July 2015 the neglected older pedophile ethan edwards A pedophile who is struggling is a better news item than someone who is peaceful and relatively contented.
|  |  | 15 May 2015 compassion for cp viewers ethan edwards Suppose you accept that pedophilia is an inclination that is not chosen and cannot be changed. You accept that locking up pedophiles who have yet to do anything wrong is not at all humane (or practical). Yet...
|  |  | 12 May 2015 two audiences: pedophiles and public ethan edwards My year 2014 posts were addressed primarily to a public that is skeptical of anything good or decent about pedophiles at all.
|  |  | 8 May 2015 transforming society to allow adult-child sex? ethan edwards Central to the pro-contact position is the idea that if only societal laws and attitudes would change, adult-child sex could be reasonably common and a happy experience for all.
|  |  | 4 May 2015 when the girl is 13 instead of 8 ethan edwards In my last post I laid out a strong case for why adult sex with 8-year-olds is always wrong. What changes when the girl is 13 years old, well into puberty?
|  |  | 2 May 2015 costs and benefits for prepubescents ethan edwards This post contains the heart of my anti-contact argument.
|  |  | 27 April 2015 sex is special ethan edwards Sex is essential to reproduction. It is no surprise that men and women are strongly motivated to have sex. Evolutionary psychology has a good story to tell about the finer points of human sexuality too.
|  |  | 24 April 2015 the failure of absolutes ethan edwards Certain things in life can be stated as absolutes. It is easy to find examples in the realm of mathematics or logic: All rectangles are polygons. All humans are mammals.
|  |  | 20 April 2015 what sorts of child sexuality are ok? ethan edwards If you believe that all sex outside of a heterosexual marriage is a sin, then you have ample reason to think adult-child sex is wrong without needing to look at details (assuming we rule out the case of child marriage). Much of what I write will not seem relevant to you.
|  |  | 17 April 2015 the political disaster of the pro-contact view ethan edwards The pro-contact position is inherently wrong — it is not possible or desirable to transform society to approve of adult-child sexual activity. I have not made that argument yet. But even once I do, it is not going to get most pro-contact pedophiles to abandon their position. Arguments never do.
|  |  | 13 April 2015 pro-contact and anti-contact pedophiles ethan edwards There is among pedophiles a major division. The pro-contact pedophiles feel that adult-child sexual contact is fundamentally OK. The anti-contact pedophiles feel it is fundamentally not OK.
|  |  | 10 April 2015 why nobody should have sex with kids ethan edwards Being in favor of adult-child sexual activity sounds awful to most people. Some might think it outrageous to even have a post addressing this question. They would think it is beyond debate, and if I'm willing to take the question seriously then I'm a friend of child abusers.
|  |  | 24 December 2014 pulling cp apart — other aspects ethan edwards So far I've looked at the child's visible reaction in CP, and the activity that is being shown.
|  |  | 21 December 2014 pulling cp apart — the activity ethan edwards Near one extreme, CP captures a child being penetrated vaginally or anally by an adult penis. When we consider the milder end, I would like to broaden the topic to include anything that someone might find erotic, and leave aside its legality — something that varies over time and jurisdiction.
|  |  | 19 December 2014 pulling cp apart — the child's reaction ethan edwards Note: In this series of posts I'm going to describe sexual situations explicitly. You have been warned.
|  |  | 18 December 2014 more on cp — preparing to go digging ethan edwards While I believe that virtual CP should be made available so that pedophiles can get sexual satisfaction out of it, I do not feel that way about CP made with real children.
|  |  | 21 November 2014 playing life in expert mode ethan edwards The Virtuous Pedophiles support group naturally has many young men in it, some of them fairly nerdy.
|  |  | 17 November 2014 benefits to less shame around sex — both wanted and unwanted ethan edwards Among social liberals, sex is agreed to be one of the great pleasures of life. Sex between (or among) consenting adults is just fine. We do have some societal rules about privacy, but there is no need to surround sex with shame. Far too many people have been taught otherwise, but they as individuals...
|  |  | 14 November 2014 pedophilia and suicide ethan edwards It has been noted that people who face charges for CP possession or sexual molestation of a child commit suicide pretty often, though I'm not aware of any studies that have been large enough to allow statistical tests. Here is one reference from Malaysia of suicide among those facing charges. This...
|  |  | 10 November 2014 pedophiles who hate themselves just like you hate them ethan edwards Some pedophiles molest children. Others, like me and many others at Virtuous Pedophiles, accept that adult sexual activity with children is wrong.

5 November 2015 review of "pedal" by chelsea rooney ethan edwards There is space for children to not be victimized, but there is no space for pedophiles to think that gives them the right to do sexual things with kids that they perceive to be willing.
1 November 2015 on stopitnow — vengeance still lurks ethan edwards An honest statement would be that you can avoid compounding your criminal exposure by stopping, but you are still liable for past crimes.
17 October 2015 critique of stopitnow's anti-cp campaign ethan edwards From the perspective of thinking clearly about complicated issues, there is a lot to criticize
10 October 2015 can you trust stopitnow's anti-cp campaign? ethan edwards The UK branch of StopItNow has launched a campaign to help people stop looking at CP. At its heart is a set of web-based modules. This is an exciting and promising new initiative — subject to one huge caveat
3 October 2015 religious social conservatives and pedophilia ethan edwards Conservative catholics can believe in celibate pedophiles, but their standards are not the same as mine.
1 October 2015 todd nickerson's salon.com articles ethan edwards Todd reports the vast majority of the emails he has gotten are supportive.
1 September 2015 truly universal suffrage: lowering the voting age to zero ethan edwards I've decided (though open to counterarguments) that the voting age should be lowered to zero.
2 August 2015 a dangerous persons registry ethan edwards The sensible kernel of wisdom to the sex offender registry is that you might want to know if a truly dangerous criminal moves in nearby.
28 July 2015 the psychopath whisperer by kent kiehl ethan edwards As a class, psychopaths commit an enormous number of crimes and almost always go back to a life of crime when released from prison.
19 July 2015 the suffering of the non-pedophilic non-offender ethan edwards Help free ordinary men from undeserved shame and self-loathing.
14 July 2015 the neglected older pedophile ethan edwards A pedophile who is struggling is a better news item than someone who is peaceful and relatively contented.
15 May 2015 compassion for cp viewers ethan edwards Suppose you accept that pedophilia is an inclination that is not chosen and cannot be changed. You accept that locking up pedophiles who have yet to do anything wrong is not at all humane (or practical). Yet...
12 May 2015 two audiences: pedophiles and public ethan edwards My year 2014 posts were addressed primarily to a public that is skeptical of anything good or decent about pedophiles at all.
8 May 2015 transforming society to allow adult-child sex? ethan edwards Central to the pro-contact position is the idea that if only societal laws and attitudes would change, adult-child sex could be reasonably common and a happy experience for all.
4 May 2015 when the girl is 13 instead of 8 ethan edwards In my last post I laid out a strong case for why adult sex with 8-year-olds is always wrong. What changes when the girl is 13 years old, well into puberty?
2 May 2015 costs and benefits for prepubescents ethan edwards This post contains the heart of my anti-contact argument.
27 April 2015 sex is special ethan edwards Sex is essential to reproduction. It is no surprise that men and women are strongly motivated to have sex. Evolutionary psychology has a good story to tell about the finer points of human sexuality too.
24 April 2015 the failure of absolutes ethan edwards Certain things in life can be stated as absolutes. It is easy to find examples in the realm of mathematics or logic: All rectangles are polygons. All humans are mammals.
20 April 2015 what sorts of child sexuality are ok? ethan edwards If you believe that all sex outside of a heterosexual marriage is a sin, then you have ample reason to think adult-child sex is wrong without needing to look at details (assuming we rule out the case of child marriage). Much of what I write will not seem relevant to you.
17 April 2015 the political disaster of the pro-contact view ethan edwards The pro-contact position is inherently wrong — it is not possible or desirable to transform society to approve of adult-child sexual activity. I have not made that argument yet. But even once I do, it is not going to get most pro-contact pedophiles to abandon their position. Arguments never do.
13 April 2015 pro-contact and anti-contact pedophiles ethan edwards There is among pedophiles a major division. The pro-contact pedophiles feel that adult-child sexual contact is fundamentally OK. The anti-contact pedophiles feel it is fundamentally not OK.
10 April 2015 why nobody should have sex with kids ethan edwards Being in favor of adult-child sexual activity sounds awful to most people. Some might think it outrageous to even have a post addressing this question. They would think it is beyond debate, and if I'm willing to take the question seriously then I'm a friend of child abusers.
24 December 2014 pulling cp apart — other aspects ethan edwards So far I've looked at the child's visible reaction in CP, and the activity that is being shown.
21 December 2014 pulling cp apart — the activity ethan edwards Near one extreme, CP captures a child being penetrated vaginally or anally by an adult penis. When we consider the milder end, I would like to broaden the topic to include anything that someone might find erotic, and leave aside its legality — something that varies over time and jurisdiction.
19 December 2014 pulling cp apart — the child's reaction ethan edwards Note: In this series of posts I'm going to describe sexual situations explicitly. You have been warned.
18 December 2014 more on cp — preparing to go digging ethan edwards While I believe that virtual CP should be made available so that pedophiles can get sexual satisfaction out of it, I do not feel that way about CP made with real children.
21 November 2014 playing life in expert mode ethan edwards The Virtuous Pedophiles support group naturally has many young men in it, some of them fairly nerdy.
17 November 2014 benefits to less shame around sex — both wanted and unwanted ethan edwards Among social liberals, sex is agreed to be one of the great pleasures of life. Sex between (or among) consenting adults is just fine. We do have some societal rules about privacy, but there is no need to surround sex with shame. Far too many people have been taught otherwise, but they as individuals...
14 November 2014 pedophilia and suicide ethan edwards It has been noted that people who face charges for CP possession or sexual molestation of a child commit suicide pretty often, though I'm not aware of any studies that have been large enough to allow statistical tests. Here is one reference from Malaysia of suicide among those facing charges. This...
10 November 2014 pedophiles who hate themselves just like you hate them ethan edwards Some pedophiles molest children. Others, like me and many others at Virtuous Pedophiles, accept that adult sexual activity with children is wrong.

earlier items

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.