can you trust stopitnow's anti-cp campaign?

## can you trust stopitnow's anti-cp campaign?

#### 10 October 2015
from celibate pedophiles

### ethan edwards

| The UK branch of StopItNow has launched a campaign to help people stop looking at CP. At its heart is a set of web-based modules. This is an exciting and promising new initiative — subject to one huge caveat Ethan Edwards is the co-founder of Virtuous Pedophiles. Blog posts reflect his personal views, and are not statements from the organization. The UK branch of StopItNow has launched a campaign to help people stop looking at CP. At its heart is a set of web-based modules that can be accessed anonymously. This is an exciting and promising new initiative — subject to one huge caveat. There are excellent reasons to stop looking at CP. Legal risk is high on the list. Interfering with one's personal values and life priorities is another. There are others. A web interface seems great for a couple reasons. One is that it avoids the shame of admitting to another human being what you are struggling with. It is also available worldwide without toll charges. It can be done in snippets — you can start any time and resume on your own schedule — including your emotional schedule of what you can handle. My first and biggest concern is security. CP possession outrages ordinary people, which translates into elected officials and law enforcement vigorously prosecuting those who have it. The nightmare scenario is that those who have a CP-viewing problem will visit the site, comforted by a guarantee of anonymity, law enforcement will keep a careful list, and when they have collected identifying information for hundreds or thousands of people, will then use that information as the basis of investigations — perhaps even probable cause for searches. Until this issue is adequately addressed, I would have to encourage any and all people to not visit this part of the website — those who have viewed illegal CP and those who have not. If it is adequately addressed, I think this should be an excellent resource. On the welcome page to this StopItNow program, it says, "We keep NO details or information that can identify the people who access this site." I'm inclined to think they are telling the truth (though I am not certain of it). However, the ways of the internet are complicated and mysterious to most of us. Based on Edward Snowden's revelations, we know government surveillance can be very intrusive. The idea that law enforcement in the service of CP investigations does not have the resources of the US NSA is little comfort, since they may acquire more in the future, or the relevant technology may get cheaper. This information may be collected without StopItNow's knowledge. StopItNow may understandably be unwilling or unable to give assurances as to what the police will do in secret. However, they do have control over the content of their website, and it has a big problem. The assumption in the text is that anyone looking at this material HAS in fact looked at illegal images of children. They have committed a crime. Visiting this part of the website (or not leaving) can be taken as an admission that you have committed a crime. The welcome messages include, "Welcome to the section of this website for people who are concerned about their online viewing of sexual images of children." Later, "Perhaps you have already stopped looking at sexual images of children; or perhaps not. Maybe you are under investigation by the police; or possibly nobody knows about your online behaviour." There is no welcome message for, "Perhaps you aren't sure whether the images you look at are legal or not". There is no message for, "Perhaps you are afraid that your viewing of legal images will lead you to view illegal images". There is no message for, "Perhaps you want to stop looking at images because this activity adversely affects your life — even though they are legal images." There is no message for, "Perhaps you want to see for yourself what the process of dealing with this problem is and what we would recommend based on different people's situations." Indicating that all of these are reasons to visit this part of the site would go a long way to defusing the idea that anyone working through these exercises is admitting to criminal activity. I have many other criticisms of the contents of the StopItNow material, but none of them would interfere with my enthusiastically suggesting that people who have a CP-viewing problem use it. About the author: Ethan Edwards is a pseudonym. I am a pedophile, always celibate, and I have never seen child pornography. My attraction is strongest to girls around 4 years old, but I am also attracted to girls and women up through their 30s or beyond. Now in my late 60s, I'm divorced and living alone. I was married for over 10 years and was heavily involved with raising my 3 daughters. For most of my career I was a successful software engineer. I am very unusual for a pedophile in that I didn't realize that I was one until I was in my 50s—but it was there all along. I am angry that we all must remain silent or risk losing everything. That was my mindset when I co-founded Virtuous Pedophiles in 2012. I soon learned of the the terror of the typical pedophile who realizes as a teenager that his attraction isn't going to go away, who has nowhere to turn for help. The injustice I am most passionate about is the harsh legal penalties imposed on pedophiles who passively view illegal images of children. I stepped down from my role as a director of Virtuous Pedophiles early in 2024 and am delighted to pass the mantle on to a younger generation. This content was taken from Ethan's longstanding blog, Celibate Pedophiles. Some of the titles and taglines have been edited for their inclusion at thepword. You can see an earlier version of the blog at the wayback machine. |

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ethan edwards The only celibate pedophile I really know is me. What I want to know most about others is whether they are good people. |  | bly Get help! It isn't normal! Stay away from kids! Thanks for the suggestions, but... |  | ender We're out there in the open, we're identifying openly as pedophiles, as people who are attracted to children through no choice of ours, and you know we're there to raise awareness and education.

what are celibate pedophiles like? ethan edwards The only celibate pedophile I really know is me. What I want to know most about others is whether they are good people.
thread: things you're overlooking bly Get help! It isn't normal! Stay away from kids! Thanks for the suggestions, but...
a moment in the sun ender We're out there in the open, we're identifying openly as pedophiles, as people who are attracted to children through no choice of ours, and you know we're there to raise awareness and education.