## ethan edwards ### co-founder of virtuous pedophiles #### writing from jul 2014 - aug 2025

| Ethan Edwards is a pseudonym. I am a pedophile, always celibate, and I have never seen child pornography. My attraction is strongest to girls around 4 years old, but I am also attracted to girls and women up through their 30s or beyond. Now in my late 60s, I'm divorced and living alone. I was married for over 10 years and was heavily involved with raising my 3 daughters. For most of my career I was a successful software engineer. I am very unusual for a pedophile in that I didn't realize that I was one until I was in my 50s—but it was there all along. I am angry that we all must remain silent or risk losing everything. That was my mindset when I co-founded Virtuous Pedophiles in 2012. I soon learned of the the terror of the typical pedophile who realizes as a teenager that his attraction isn't going to go away, who has nowhere to turn for help. The injustice I am most passionate about is the harsh legal penalties imposed on pedophiles who passively view illegal images of children. I stepped down from my role as a director of Virtuous Pedophiles early in 2024 and am delighted to pass the mantle on to a younger generation. |

Ethan Edwards is a pseudonym. I am a pedophile, always celibate, and I have never seen child pornography. My attraction is strongest to girls around 4 years old, but I am also attracted to girls and women up through their 30s or beyond. Now in my late 60s, I'm divorced and living alone. I was married for over 10 years and was heavily involved with raising my 3 daughters. For most of my career I was a successful software engineer. I am very unusual for a pedophile in that I didn't realize that I was one until I was in my 50s—but it was there all along. I am angry that we all must remain silent or risk losing everything. That was my mindset when I co-founded Virtuous Pedophiles in 2012. I soon learned of the the terror of the typical pedophile who realizes as a teenager that his attraction isn't going to go away, who has nowhere to turn for help. The injustice I am most passionate about is the harsh legal penalties imposed on pedophiles who passively view illegal images of children. I stepped down from my role as a director of Virtuous Pedophiles early in 2024 and am delighted to pass the mantle on to a younger generation.

more recent items

aug 2014 to nov 2014

|  |  | 7 November 2014 doing the numbers: how many pedophiles offend? ethan edwards I've often said that many pedophiles do not offend against children. It is the foundation of much of the rest of our message.
|  |  | 3 November 2014 childhood pictures of adult partners ethan edwards Most people, whatever their attractions, want some sort of sexual relationship in our lives. A common and understandable agony of pedophiles is the fear that they will never know love or sex. One of the first things I suggest is that they look at adult relationships. Pedophilia is defined by an strong...
|  |  | 31 October 2014 repeat: many pedophiles never abuse kids! ethan edwards Virtuous Pedophiles has been up and running for over two years now. This key fact is right on our home page: "a substantial number of pedophiles do not molest children".
|  |  | 27 October 2014 apparent self-interest ethan edwards Most pedophiles become known when they commit crimes. Another way they come to the public's attention is when they ask for changes in public policy. The group with highest name recognition on the matter is NAMBLA. They argue that boys should be able to consent to sex with anyone at any age — to prevent...
|  |  | 24 October 2014 what if adult rape was a mandated reporting offense? ethan edwards Mandated reporting laws vary among the US states, but this is a common situation: If a girl of 14 goes to a therapist and reports that some cousin (during a rare visit) sexually abused her, the therapist is required by law to report this to the authorities, who will conduct an investigation. The girl...
|  |  | 13 October 2014 the right to be left alone — short and sweet ethan edwards If the First Amendment means anything, it means that a State has no business telling a man, sitting alone in his own house, what books he may read or what films he may watch. — US Supreme Court, 1969.
|  |  | 10 October 2014 internet sex predators reconsidered ethan edwards Some men chat online with underage girls (or boys), hoping after an extended conversation to meet them in real life for sex. Society hates them with a passion. It devotes considerable resources to police officers posing as underage girls, hoping to lure them to an encounter where they can be arrested....
|  |  | 6 October 2014 another variable: what kids think of sex ethan edwards In my last post I looked at attraction to different ages of children and stages of physical development.
|  |  | 3 October 2014 age of attraction is one continuous dimension ethan edwards The differences in attraction patterns involving age is one more aspect to how much variety there is among pedophiles.
|  |  | 29 September 2014 how far apart the sides can be... ethan edwards Many posters in other pedophile communities and on other similar boards regard me and Virtuous Pedophiles with hatred.
|  |  | 26 September 2014 how does cp viewing affect contact offending? ethan edwards The received wisdom for some time has been that looking at CP makes it more likely that a pedophile will offend against a child. When men who have committed a contact offense are interviewed, they often describe CP viewing as part of the process that led up to the offense. But there is no evidence of...
|  |  | 22 September 2014 civil commitment for (subhuman) pedophiles ethan edwards Is it right to imprison people for heinous crimes they have not yet committed?
|  |  | 19 September 2014 selecting for dangerous or clueless men ethan edwards With the exception of sexual abuse, most of my posts can be seen as arguing society should be more tolerant of pedophiles and everything to do with pedophiles.
|  |  | 15 September 2014 it's a child! run away! ethan edwards One cost of pedophile hysteria is paid not by pedophiles but by all men.
|  |  | 12 September 2014 coming out voluntarily ethan edwards One way pedophiles become known is if they are investigated by law enforcement. Some of those cases make the news, accompanied by uniformly creepy-looking mug shots. The stories are carried far and wide, and those are the pedophiles who shape the public's impression: criminals.
|  |  | 7 September 2014 pedophilia and asperger syndrome ethan edwards I've occasionally heard the accusation that pedophiles are attracted to children because they can't make it with grown women. The implication is that they have a sense of entitlement that they deserve partners, and they abuse children because they can. Perhaps the criminal justice system has encountered...
|  |  | 4 September 2014 an artist exhibited his daughter ethan edwards An artist's images of his young child stir controversy
|  |  | 31 August 2014 police rushing to disrupt families ethan edwards From time to time there are coordinated arrests of CP offenders. Here's a recent one from the UK .
|  |  | 28 August 2014 pedophilia and parenthood ethan edwards Should pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction
|  |  | 26 August 2014 to tell or not to tell? pedophiles and marriage ethan edwards Occasionally we get inquiries from girlfriends or wives who have just discovered their man is a pedophile. Should they stay together?
|  |  | 24 August 2014 the elusive harm of viewing cp ethan edwards I want to address the idea that watching a record of child sex abuse is itself morally wrong because of the effect it has on the child in the images.
|  |  | 22 August 2014 do you believe in telepathy? ethan edwards I feel so terrible. I have this video of a guy being followed by a sheep across a field.
|  |  | 19 August 2014 trouble imagining our existence ethan edwards "Can pedophiles be entirely abstinent, eschewing even their preferred CP?" Why on earth is that even a question?
|  |  | 18 August 2014 celibate pedophiles spending time with children ethan edwards Pedophiles live in the wide world, and children live in the wide world, and they're bound to be in the same place sometimes.
|  |  | 16 August 2014 the benign desires of the typical pedophile ethan edwards One way of knowing about pedophiles is from the perpetrators of abuse. Another way is from the stories of teens who realize that they are attracted to children.
|  |  | 12 August 2014 seto on cp ethan edwards Police take some pains to make sure you really are a pedophile before they prosecute.
|  |  | 10 August 2014 eating the family dog ethan edwards A man is sexually attracted to young girls. He knows he will never act inappropriately with a real girl. But...
|  |  | 9 August 2014 those other pedophiles ethan edwards This blog is called "Celibate Pedophiles". The core message is that many pedophiles never engage in any illegal activity. But then there are the other pedophiles, the ones who are not celibate.
|  |  | 5 August 2014 variety in how pedophiles relate to children ethan edwards This is a speculative post. I have no studies to cite. I don't recall ever seeing anyone else take this perspective.
|  |  | 3 August 2014 what are celibate pedophiles like? ethan edwards The only celibate pedophile I really know is me. What I want to know most about others is whether they are good people.

7 November 2014 doing the numbers: how many pedophiles offend? ethan edwards I've often said that many pedophiles do not offend against children. It is the foundation of much of the rest of our message.
3 November 2014 childhood pictures of adult partners ethan edwards Most people, whatever their attractions, want some sort of sexual relationship in our lives. A common and understandable agony of pedophiles is the fear that they will never know love or sex. One of the first things I suggest is that they look at adult relationships. Pedophilia is defined by an strong...
31 October 2014 repeat: many pedophiles never abuse kids! ethan edwards Virtuous Pedophiles has been up and running for over two years now. This key fact is right on our home page: "a substantial number of pedophiles do not molest children".
27 October 2014 apparent self-interest ethan edwards Most pedophiles become known when they commit crimes. Another way they come to the public's attention is when they ask for changes in public policy. The group with highest name recognition on the matter is NAMBLA. They argue that boys should be able to consent to sex with anyone at any age — to prevent...
24 October 2014 what if adult rape was a mandated reporting offense? ethan edwards Mandated reporting laws vary among the US states, but this is a common situation: If a girl of 14 goes to a therapist and reports that some cousin (during a rare visit) sexually abused her, the therapist is required by law to report this to the authorities, who will conduct an investigation. The girl...
13 October 2014 the right to be left alone — short and sweet ethan edwards If the First Amendment means anything, it means that a State has no business telling a man, sitting alone in his own house, what books he may read or what films he may watch. — US Supreme Court, 1969.
10 October 2014 internet sex predators reconsidered ethan edwards Some men chat online with underage girls (or boys), hoping after an extended conversation to meet them in real life for sex. Society hates them with a passion. It devotes considerable resources to police officers posing as underage girls, hoping to lure them to an encounter where they can be arrested....
6 October 2014 another variable: what kids think of sex ethan edwards In my last post I looked at attraction to different ages of children and stages of physical development.
3 October 2014 age of attraction is one continuous dimension ethan edwards The differences in attraction patterns involving age is one more aspect to how much variety there is among pedophiles.
29 September 2014 how far apart the sides can be... ethan edwards Many posters in other pedophile communities and on other similar boards regard me and Virtuous Pedophiles with hatred.
26 September 2014 how does cp viewing affect contact offending? ethan edwards The received wisdom for some time has been that looking at CP makes it more likely that a pedophile will offend against a child. When men who have committed a contact offense are interviewed, they often describe CP viewing as part of the process that led up to the offense. But there is no evidence of...
22 September 2014 civil commitment for (subhuman) pedophiles ethan edwards Is it right to imprison people for heinous crimes they have not yet committed?
19 September 2014 selecting for dangerous or clueless men ethan edwards With the exception of sexual abuse, most of my posts can be seen as arguing society should be more tolerant of pedophiles and everything to do with pedophiles.
15 September 2014 it's a child! run away! ethan edwards One cost of pedophile hysteria is paid not by pedophiles but by all men.
12 September 2014 coming out voluntarily ethan edwards One way pedophiles become known is if they are investigated by law enforcement. Some of those cases make the news, accompanied by uniformly creepy-looking mug shots. The stories are carried far and wide, and those are the pedophiles who shape the public's impression: criminals.
7 September 2014 pedophilia and asperger syndrome ethan edwards I've occasionally heard the accusation that pedophiles are attracted to children because they can't make it with grown women. The implication is that they have a sense of entitlement that they deserve partners, and they abuse children because they can. Perhaps the criminal justice system has encountered...
4 September 2014 an artist exhibited his daughter ethan edwards An artist's images of his young child stir controversy
31 August 2014 police rushing to disrupt families ethan edwards From time to time there are coordinated arrests of CP offenders. Here's a recent one from the UK .
28 August 2014 pedophilia and parenthood ethan edwards Should pedophiles become parents? I imagine many readers will have a passionately negative reaction
26 August 2014 to tell or not to tell? pedophiles and marriage ethan edwards Occasionally we get inquiries from girlfriends or wives who have just discovered their man is a pedophile. Should they stay together?
24 August 2014 the elusive harm of viewing cp ethan edwards I want to address the idea that watching a record of child sex abuse is itself morally wrong because of the effect it has on the child in the images.
22 August 2014 do you believe in telepathy? ethan edwards I feel so terrible. I have this video of a guy being followed by a sheep across a field.
19 August 2014 trouble imagining our existence ethan edwards "Can pedophiles be entirely abstinent, eschewing even their preferred CP?" Why on earth is that even a question?
18 August 2014 celibate pedophiles spending time with children ethan edwards Pedophiles live in the wide world, and children live in the wide world, and they're bound to be in the same place sometimes.
16 August 2014 the benign desires of the typical pedophile ethan edwards One way of knowing about pedophiles is from the perpetrators of abuse. Another way is from the stories of teens who realize that they are attracted to children.
12 August 2014 seto on cp ethan edwards Police take some pains to make sure you really are a pedophile before they prosecute.
10 August 2014 eating the family dog ethan edwards A man is sexually attracted to young girls. He knows he will never act inappropriately with a real girl. But...
9 August 2014 those other pedophiles ethan edwards This blog is called "Celibate Pedophiles". The core message is that many pedophiles never engage in any illegal activity. But then there are the other pedophiles, the ones who are not celibate.
5 August 2014 variety in how pedophiles relate to children ethan edwards This is a speculative post. I have no studies to cite. I don't recall ever seeing anyone else take this perspective.
3 August 2014 what are celibate pedophiles like? ethan edwards The only celibate pedophile I really know is me. What I want to know most about others is whether they are good people.

earlier items

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.