## bly ### anti-contact, anti-csem community activist and writer #### writing from jan 2018 - nov 2025

| I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed illegal material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing. |

I have been writing and talking about the experience of being a pedophile since 2017. Once on twitter until my account was banned in 2020, I co-led Virtuous Pedophiles from 2021 to 2025. I now continue to look for ways to improve the lives of pedophiles, but never at the expense of harming children. I have never viewed illegal material, and never sought or engaged in sexual activity with any child. The rest of my life is countryside walking, friends, Radio 3 and feeling doleful about ageing.

author's best

|  |  | 1 December 2019 we have to protect children, even the ones you hate bly A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.
|  |  | 29 March 2019 thread: a new pedophile was just born bly A future pedophile is born every 45 seconds. What do we do when they come of age?
|  |  | 5 March 2019 attraction is not action bly In my teenaged years, I had access to a therapist, but I just never brought it up and the sessions ended without it ever being mentioned.

1 December 2019 we have to protect children, even the ones you hate bly A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.
29 March 2019 thread: a new pedophile was just born bly A future pedophile is born every 45 seconds. What do we do when they come of age?
5 March 2019 attraction is not action bly In my teenaged years, I had access to a therapist, but I just never brought it up and the sessions ended without it ever being mentioned.
7 September 2018 why pro-contact pedophile arguments are bullshit (by a pedophile) bly Don't be suckered by those who say it's OK to act on it or those that claim it's inevitable you will.
16 January 2018 the first time i didn't view child pornography bly Child sexual abuse material, known legally as child pornography, is a blight on children's lives. But what if you're the kind of person it's aimed at?

latest: apr 2019 to nov 2025

|  |  | 22 November 2025 voices that are drowned bly Benjamin Britten - feted as a great composer, known to be attracted to boys, suspected of one rejected advance - can we claim him as a non-offending MAP?
|  |  | 9 May 2025 the first few years bly A longterm relationship between a non-exclusive pedophile and an unaware non-pedophile ends. Who is left owing what to whom?
|  |  | 6 May 2025 never say die: the hard rules of suicide and map talk bly We deal with the topic of suicide similarly to the topic of pedophilia: denial, pre-formed narratives and a fear of listening to details of the truth.
|  |  | 4 May 2025 two way mirror: pedophiles coming out to one another bly Two people simultaneously and silently ask, I'm one of the good ones, but are you?
|  |  | 2 May 2025 the rest of the list bly A new podcast from the BBC highlights the gap between the popular assumption that known pedophiles are removed somehow from society and the reality that they are not. Why does this gap exist?
|  |  | 1 April 2025 is pedophilia an orientation or a disorder? bly The key question that public and experts are debating to understand the nature of attraction to children.
|  |  | 4 March 2025 two pedophiles; one moral binary; no dogs bly I'd give a lot for a crime-free thriller instead, but No Dogs Allowed tells a lot of truth about a young pedophile's life
|  |  | 11 February 2025 a minor pedophile reached out... into the wild west bly So I sought out people like me. I would go on those sketchy teen/tween chat rooms, explaining that I was a minor looking for someone to talk to.
|  |  | 31 December 2024 what we tried to say on bluesky and twitter bly VirPed's accounts have been banned (twice) from Twitter and once from BlueSky. We had one main thing to say...
|  |  | 18 October 2021 a short bright elucidation bly A review of A Long Dark Shadow: Minor Attracted People and Their Pursuit of Dignity by Allyn Walker
|  |  | 9 September 2021 reviews: safe from harm and let's talk: child sexual abuse bly A BBC radio drama and an online documentary from Channel 4 both open up the topic of non-offending pedophilia
|  |  | 23 April 2021 childlike self-concepts, pt. 1: an anecdotal introduction bly Academics have begun to study autopedophilia, with a focus on sexual arousal from the idea of being childlike. But there's a much broader phenomenon going on here, and I'm right in the middle of it.
|  |  | 15 July 2020 thread: risk or risk factor? bly Does the distinction matter? Yes, so much that it could be the difference between child abuse and no crime.
|  |  | 2 July 2020 thread: window shoppers and thieves bly People say that all we want to do is rape children. But this doesn't describe us well.
|  |  | 26 April 2020 thread: could pedophiles appear on stage? bly Representation for us is very difficult in film or using our own identities. Could theatre have a solution?
|  |  | 21 April 2020 thread: things you're overlooking bly Get help! It isn't normal! Stay away from kids! Thanks for the suggestions, but...
|  |  | 12 April 2020 thread: the narrative of situational offenders bly Are sexual offenders against children really divided neatly into 'pedophilic' and 'situational'?
|  |  | 11 April 2020 thread: welcome, pandemic maps! bly Advice based on three years of social media maptivism.
|  |  | 12 February 2020 autopedophilia and ageplay bly I would say the group I consider myself part of, is people who are emotionally or sexually drawn to the idea of identifying with or identifying as if a minor.
|  |  | 4 January 2020 thread: are prevention programmes effective? bly Many professional efforts to support us are based on the idea of preventing crimes. Do they actually work?
|  |  | 1 December 2019 we have to protect children, even the ones you hate bly A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.
|  |  | 15 November 2019 thread: autopedophilia and pedophilia bly Is there a difference between being attracted to a child and wanting to be a child? Yes. But there is also overlap.
|  |  | 28 October 2019 thread: normalizing pedophilia? bly The term "normalization" has come to mean "shut up" when used against us on social media.
|  |  | 9 October 2019 thread: why don't anti-cs talk about the age of consent? bly It's taboo to start a discussion about this among anti-contacts. Here's why.
|  |  | 29 September 2019 past the dark facts bly A review of Sheila van den Heuvel-Collins' Past the Dark Field
|  |  | 20 September 2019 thread: what rights do pedophiles lack? bly Don't pedophiles already have all the rights they need?
|  |  | 23 June 2019 thread: mutual coming out is hard bly It's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile.
|  |  | 13 May 2019 thread: normalization? hardly bly People both overestimate our influence and underestimate our humanity.
|  |  | 4 May 2019 thread: pedo-hunters bly Vigilantes are much feared and hated by non-offending pedophiles as well as by offenders. Why?
|  |  | 19 April 2019 thread: i'm gay but not in lgbtq+ bly No, we don't want to join LGBT+, but some of us are lesbian, gay, trans and/or one of the other letters.

22 November 2025 voices that are drowned bly Benjamin Britten - feted as a great composer, known to be attracted to boys, suspected of one rejected advance - can we claim him as a non-offending MAP?
9 May 2025 the first few years bly A longterm relationship between a non-exclusive pedophile and an unaware non-pedophile ends. Who is left owing what to whom?
6 May 2025 never say die: the hard rules of suicide and map talk bly We deal with the topic of suicide similarly to the topic of pedophilia: denial, pre-formed narratives and a fear of listening to details of the truth.
4 May 2025 two way mirror: pedophiles coming out to one another bly Two people simultaneously and silently ask, I'm one of the good ones, but are you?
2 May 2025 the rest of the list bly A new podcast from the BBC highlights the gap between the popular assumption that known pedophiles are removed somehow from society and the reality that they are not. Why does this gap exist?
1 April 2025 is pedophilia an orientation or a disorder? bly The key question that public and experts are debating to understand the nature of attraction to children.
4 March 2025 two pedophiles; one moral binary; no dogs bly I'd give a lot for a crime-free thriller instead, but No Dogs Allowed tells a lot of truth about a young pedophile's life
11 February 2025 a minor pedophile reached out... into the wild west bly So I sought out people like me. I would go on those sketchy teen/tween chat rooms, explaining that I was a minor looking for someone to talk to.
31 December 2024 what we tried to say on bluesky and twitter bly VirPed's accounts have been banned (twice) from Twitter and once from BlueSky. We had one main thing to say...
18 October 2021 a short bright elucidation bly A review of A Long Dark Shadow: Minor Attracted People and Their Pursuit of Dignity by Allyn Walker
9 September 2021 reviews: safe from harm and let's talk: child sexual abuse bly A BBC radio drama and an online documentary from Channel 4 both open up the topic of non-offending pedophilia
23 April 2021 childlike self-concepts, pt. 1: an anecdotal introduction bly Academics have begun to study autopedophilia, with a focus on sexual arousal from the idea of being childlike. But there's a much broader phenomenon going on here, and I'm right in the middle of it.
15 July 2020 thread: risk or risk factor? bly Does the distinction matter? Yes, so much that it could be the difference between child abuse and no crime.
2 July 2020 thread: window shoppers and thieves bly People say that all we want to do is rape children. But this doesn't describe us well.
26 April 2020 thread: could pedophiles appear on stage? bly Representation for us is very difficult in film or using our own identities. Could theatre have a solution?
21 April 2020 thread: things you're overlooking bly Get help! It isn't normal! Stay away from kids! Thanks for the suggestions, but...
12 April 2020 thread: the narrative of situational offenders bly Are sexual offenders against children really divided neatly into 'pedophilic' and 'situational'?
11 April 2020 thread: welcome, pandemic maps! bly Advice based on three years of social media maptivism.
12 February 2020 autopedophilia and ageplay bly I would say the group I consider myself part of, is people who are emotionally or sexually drawn to the idea of identifying with or identifying as if a minor.
4 January 2020 thread: are prevention programmes effective? bly Many professional efforts to support us are based on the idea of preventing crimes. Do they actually work?
1 December 2019 we have to protect children, even the ones you hate bly A group of adolescents, many thousands strong, are struggling with self-hatred and fear, and most people don't think that's a problem.
15 November 2019 thread: autopedophilia and pedophilia bly Is there a difference between being attracted to a child and wanting to be a child? Yes. But there is also overlap.
28 October 2019 thread: normalizing pedophilia? bly The term "normalization" has come to mean "shut up" when used against us on social media.
9 October 2019 thread: why don't anti-cs talk about the age of consent? bly It's taboo to start a discussion about this among anti-contacts. Here's why.
29 September 2019 past the dark facts bly A review of Sheila van den Heuvel-Collins' Past the Dark Field
20 September 2019 thread: what rights do pedophiles lack? bly Don't pedophiles already have all the rights they need?
23 June 2019 thread: mutual coming out is hard bly It's hard to come out to regular people, but it can even be hard to come out to another pedophile.
13 May 2019 thread: normalization? hardly bly People both overestimate our influence and underestimate our humanity.
4 May 2019 thread: pedo-hunters bly Vigilantes are much feared and hated by non-offending pedophiles as well as by offenders. Why?
19 April 2019 thread: i'm gay but not in lgbtq+ bly No, we don't want to join LGBT+, but some of us are lesbian, gay, trans and/or one of the other letters.

earlier items

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.

the p word is a collection of 319 articles, blogs, podcasts and threads in the voices of pedophiles and others who oppose adult child sexual contact and sexual exploitation of children. Despite our mainstream views, this content is frequently removed from social media or blog sites because openly discussing pedophile attractions or avowing them are not tolerated. Our side of the conversation continues here.
editor at the p word net Except where stated, all images are AI and do not depict real people.